I have a specific and unique way of working with couples to prevent divorce. Find out more about my quick approach to loosening the grip of pain and anger, by diffusing the blame. This is where couples get stuck. I have streamlined and can get to the core (what’s underneath) generally in the first hour. What I am doing works 100% of the time, when people work it. Both partners have to be open to learning and willing to practice the tools I offer or assign. If one partner lags or resists, that’s ok as long as s/he can come around to opening and opting fully back in.
I recently had a couple from Norway who had filled out their divorce papers. The wife had returned to her hometown in Oregon, and her X-husband later arrived with trunks of her belongings. She called me. After talking for 3 hours with both of them online, they were back in their marriage.
The thing is that how well any of your relationships go stems from how good you are with yourself. You with you: that’s your primary relationship. Couples counseling is mostly ineffective. The analysis and regurgitating keeps the pots stirred. Understanding is only a booby prize. It does little to change unconscious patterns. I cannot tell you how many couples have told me that they felt worse after leaving a couples therapy session. The feedback I get is how wonderful it is to feel hopeful and inspired at the end of the first session.
If you know or hear of couples who are struggling or in trouble, direct them to this webinar replay. No cost: tips, tools, and inspiration.